For the love of God

Unless you’ve been living under a rock, in which case you probably have more “pressing” matters to attend to, you’ve heard the Gay Fil-A debate that is currently underway. I’ve largely been staying out of the matter, but after a couple of weeks of hearing the back and forth from both sides of this issue I’m going to ahead and through my two nuggets in.

For the most part, I steer clear of fast food altogether and I strongly encourage you to do the same. There’s something unsettling and wrong about the fact that I can have an entire meal prepared and handed over to me ready to eat inside of two minutes. This is not how we were meant to or designed to eat.

But on the rare occasion where I’ve been on the road or busy with work or as second meal on set, I have partaken. For what it’s worth Chik-Fil-A is probably the Role’s Royce of fast food. The service is fast and every employee is so damn polite and friendly, almost to the point of being indoctrinated brainwashed robots. But nonetheless they’re seemingly the most friendly robots you’ll ever meet in your life. Even at 5:30 in the morning it’s still their pleasure to serve me a piece of fried chicken sandwiched between a buttery biscuit.

Now Chik-Fil-A is well-known to be a Christian based business. Thus it should come as no surprise to anyone that they are not in support of same-sex marriage kind of by default. But with the very public comments that their owner recently made, they’ve brought themselves squarely onto the social media cross hairs. Paraphrasing, he basically said that they support the traditional family unit and biblical definition of marriage.

As you might expect, Chik-Fil-A got into some hot grease with those comments. What you might not expect is that they have ironically at the same time been experiencing record profits. Those who are in line with Chik-Fil-A’s founders’ views have been eating more chikin in droves, after Governor Mike Huckabee declared August 1st to be national Chik-Fil-A appreciation day. The other side of this debate is boycotting the restaurant altogether, though I think today is supposed to be same-sex kiss day. Homosexual couples are being encouraged to go to a Chik-Fil-A and kiss and snap a photo and post it online. I’m not sure what that’s supposed to do exactly. I mean if the goal is to simply enrage the other side, mission accomplished. But if the goal is to move forward on this debate and secure equal rights and treatment for everyone in this country then I don’t think swapping spit and nuggets is going to get it done.

Now, I fully support gay marriage. In fact I don’t even look at is “gay” marriage. It’ just a union between two people. What difference does it make what gender they both are? Well, the difference comes from a little collection of texts written over thousands of years thrown together in a book known as the bible, and this where things get really crazy.

Look, everyone is entitled to their faith. You can believe whatever you want to. And I’m not against it. What I am against is taking a belief and turning into a law. It’s fundamentally wrong. I’m not against you believing what you want. Personally, I don’t think religion has done the world much good, but that’s my opinion and I’m entitled to it, much like anyone is entitled to believe whatever they want. What a person is not entitled to is using their belief system to stand in the way of someone’s rights! Whatever religious implications marriage has is irrelevant. Marriage is a legal matter. You can get married in a courthouse. You get a marriage LICENSE. You are joined LEGALLY. Somehow a belief has permeated our legal system and that is insane and dangerous.

A belief can’t be law. It’s called a belief. It’s not a known fact. No one absolutely knows if God exists. It can’t be proven. And if you read scripture God deliberately offers humanity no proof of existence and asks us to take it on faith.

By the way that whole notion is crazy too. I make the analogy of going to a used car dealer and buying the first car the dealer shows you because he says it’s a good car without so much as doing a test drive. Who would do that? Yet a large group of people will commit themselves entirely to a belief system without one shred of physical proof.

Anyhow, the point is no one knows for certain. Some people claim to know, but they’re flat-out wrong. You can’t believe enough to suddenly one day KNOW. You may believe in it very strongly and you’re free to do so but what you’re not free to do is damn someone else and tell them they’re wrong especially what you can’t prove it.

Furthermore, if you’re going to inject a faith into our legal system, then you need to do so for the whole thing, and not just not the convenient bits and pieces of it that allow you to justify your fears and bigotry. If you are going to say that you support the biblical definition of family and marriage then you better support all of it.

I can go through and easily site some crazy things in the old testament when it comes to defining marriage, and also the treatment of women. I imagine a few people would immediately come out against me saying that most of that stuff is null and void due to the new testament. Alright, point taken, but then you can’t site old testament for making your point about gay marriage if you’re not going follow the rest of the crazy stuff. IE stoning a woman who is an adulterer or marrying someone who rapes you.

On the point of rape I got into a rather lengthy debate on Facebook about this subject on a friend’s wall. This friend is not in support of same-sex marriage.

Speaking as someone who has had to deal with rape indirectly, I can tell you that a rapist is not the same as all of my gay friends. The act that person committed is just a bit more egregious than two people of the same gender lying in the same bed.

So, if you’re going to stand up for “Biblical principles” then go ahead, stand up for them. All of them. But don’t use the bible as a feel good way of saying your homophobic. Don’t present an interpretation of the bible that conveniently suits you. It really cheapens your religion and disrespects your god to do so. But then again there is a problem. The bible is so a vague and open to interpretation that whose to say what it really means at times. There’s so much in fighting within Christianity itself anyhow. You’ve got Protestants, Catholics, Mormons, Jehovah Witnesses, Presbyterian, and the list goes on and on. Each have their own views that starkly contrast with each other. There is a serious lack of unity.

Chik-Fil-A says that they strive to “treat every person with honor, dignity and respect — regardless of their belief, race, creed, sexual orientation or gender”. Many other people parrot those same words, but by not being in support of love between two people of the same gender, you are inherently not treating people with any of those things. And that’s the real double standard. This harkens back to the days of separate but equal. We tried that before and it didn’t really work. The current generation, my generation, looks back on that time in history in disbelief and disgust. I have a sneaking suspicion that the next generation will likely look back on these times with those same feelings.

Homosexuality isn’t a fad. It isn’t going anywhere. It’s been here since the dawn of time. And it’s just not just limited to the human race. It can be found in all manner of animals. Are they sinners as well? With that said, I have to ask those who stand against same-sex marriage, What’s your goal? If it’s to eradicate homosexuality, IT ISN’T GOING TO HAPPEN. Therefore pretty much the only thing you can accomplish is making people unhappy. Eventually the whole country will legalize same-sex marriage. Make no mistake, this is going to happen and all you are doing right now is helping to write another shameful period in the pages of American history and personally I don’t want to be an author.

I welcome any and all comments. I’m open to them. And yeah, I do believe those in support of gay marriage go to far at times. By villainizing every single person out there who does not believe as they do doesn’t do their side any good. Some take it to the point of you either support gay marriage or you’re the scum of the earth and you’re going to be treated as such. That’s going too far. I mean, what about the all of the homosexuals throughout the Arab world and in Iran who are being executed for being gay? There seems to be a lack of consistency in the outrage.

Look, I have plenty of great friends who don’t support gay marriage but are still good people doing good things. I can’t just blanket label them as scum bag bigots. Also, Government officials, like the mayors of Boston and Chicago coming out and saying that Chik-fil-A isn’t welcome and even going so far as to say that they are going to block them from opening new stores is crazy stupid. You can’t stop a business from opening because they have views that are in contradiction with your own. We have an amendment that sort of protects against that.

The mayor of Chicago has said “Chick-fil-A’s values are not Chicago values. They’re not respectful of our residents, our neighbors and our family members. And if you’re gonna be part of the Chicago community, you should reflect Chicago values,” So if you’re going to attempt to block a business because of their , do you intend to block these too?

I’m pretty sure there are way more churches in Chicago then there are Chik-Fil-A’s. In summation, there is hypocrisy on both sides. I think it’s an important issue, but it is rather difficult to have a productive debate on something when neither side is really willing to see things from any point of view other than their own.

~ by glennikin on August 3, 2012.

One Response to “For the love of God”

  1. Well I read about 3/4 of this. This Christian is in agreement with you. However there is historical evidence to back up many biblical events.

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