Let’s stay in touch

A comment was posted a few days ago about Patrick’s death. I just wanted to share it. Let’s make sure that when we say “stay in touch” we mean it. Alright? You just never know.

Hi.  I don’t know you, but I wanted to thank you for your kind words about Patrick.

Patrick and I were friends many years ago.  In fact, he was my dearest friend when I was in college.  We wrote letters and called each other  off and on after I left Virginia and I had moved back home to Atlanta.  But  then I moved to Colorado and, after a year or two, we fell out of touch.

Once I felt like my life was back on track, I tried to reach him several times.  I wrote a few letters, but I don’t think they ever made it.  All I had was his old address in Roanoke.  Every couple of months, I would search for him on the internet.  I could see that he had finally followed his heart and gone  to film school and I was very happy for him.   But I never saw an address or a phone number.  All I could see were links to “social” sites, and unlike most people I know, I have been too scared, too private, to actually sign up on one.

Instead, I would think of Patrick every time I’d hear a great new band or see a weirdly wonderful film and I would wish that I could tell him about it.  I would search for him again and I would -almost- get a Facebook account because I just wanted to talk to him again.

A couple of weeks ago, I moved again.  Still in Colorado, but a new town.  I had finally just decided that I would bite the bullet and get a social account of some sort so that I could find my friend.  Today, I got an alumnae letter from college, which reminded me to look on the internet again, and this time I was determined to do something about it.

Of course, the first thing I saw was his obituary.  I am completely stunned and  indescribably  sad.  And of course, I am devastated that I am too late.  Too late to talk to him again and too late to even say goodbye.

If it hadn’t been for your words, all I would have was an obituary.  But instead, I have a picture and your confirmation that Patrick was the same man that I remembered.  Clearly, his soul had not changed over the years.  He was the kindest and most generous person I knew.  He was creative and smart and funny.   I have met very few men who have measured up to Patrick.  Knowing that he is no longer with us leaves this huge hole in me.

I am so sorry that I have missed the last ten years of his life and I can’t believe that I will never see him again.  We have suffered a terrible loss.

I know we don’t know each other, but thank you for giving me the chance to say this to  someone.  I am very grateful for the time that I got to spend with Patrick, but I am so unbelievably sad that his time with us was so short.

I miss him.

Thank you for sharing Jen. Let’s remember that Patrick is only as gone as we let him be. Unfortunately we don’t have him with us in a physical sense any longer, but he can still live on through us. What he stood for, what he believed in, his energy, his compassion,  his creativity and his general zest for life, these are all things that we can exude ourselves and pass onto to others. In that way, he becomes immortal. It’s what I plan to do. How? That will be revealed soon.

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~ by glennikin on September 15, 2011.

One Response to “Let’s stay in touch”

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